"As adults supporting adolescents such changes may challenge us to be open to what is happening, to be receptive and responsive instead of reactive, to connect rather than correct."
This is the way that Siegel starts off this section of reading. Throughout this entire book we have tried to gain a better understanding of why adolescents act the way that they do throughout this period of life by looking at physical, mental, emotional, and psychological changes. As well as gaining an understanding of why, Siegel is intentionally showing adults encountering adolescents how to be successful in their interactions. He makes it very clear throughout the entire book that we aren't able to control everything an adolescent experiences in this beautiful stage of life. But, we can remain present.
This is a common theme through this entire chapter. Remain present. I remember thinking as a teenager that my parents were not cool. I remember getting stressed out, and my parents just didn't help. One thing I do remember is how they never stopped being there. They didn't say "screw it" and leave me hanging. No matter how moody, rude, and emotional I was, they were present in my life. They supported me, and I always knew that they loved me. I think this is ultimately what Siegel is alluding to. Adults have the choice when dealing with adolescents. We can get mad and frustrated and attempt to change them, or we can remain present and constant in their rapidly changing lives.
I appreciated the last paragraph of your post because I was able to relate to it. It's been really nice to have parents who have willingly chose to play a very important and big role in my life over the years. Good post.
ReplyDeleteReading this gives me hope for the kids that I serve as well as encouragement to know that when my kids become teens they will likely not be a fan of me but hopefully, in the long run, they'll grow to appreciate the structure and love.
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